Blunt Advice.

Anonymous asked: What would you do if someone you really liked/been dating regurarly for several months/lives a few hours away/likes sex a lot had an account on datehookup? without a picture? and you created a phony account to see what his profile said and although it wasn't bad itself he proceeded to check out your phony account with no picture....I'm so sick to my stomach. Should I tell him I know? I saw the website in his recent websites and decided to make a fake account to see what his profile said...

let me ask you one question…whats a “relationship” with secrets kept from the other?

keep that in mind, that should answer your own question

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c-aliginous asked: Theres this guy. I've liked him since april of last year. about 4 months ago we started dating. Hes the best boyfriend anyone could ever have. He never pressures me and you can tell he loves me more than anything in the whole world. He treats me so well and everything. But. i have an issue. He's my very first boyfriend, and i kinda grew up with the fairytale kinda view on what a relatinship would be like, and now that im in one, i REALLY want to be single. All my friends are guys, and i feel almost guilty hanging out with them now, and when people find out i hang out with other guys, they tell me i shouldnt so my boyfriend wont get mad, and when we hang out, we have to avoid going out in public so people wont think km cheating. Im also probably the most independant person ever, and idk i really dont like being in a relationship. I also feel like, my boyfriend gives so much into the relationship, and i really cant give enough back because i feel like i just dont even want to be in a relationship. And dont get me wrong, its not him, hes amazing in every way and if i did want to be in a relationship, i would choose him in a heartbeat, but i just prefer being single. But i feel like if i break up with him I'm gonna regret it so much because I've liked him for sosososo long and i feel like i might never have another chance with someone so amazing if i ever decide i am ready for a relationship. We dont even see eachother much aswell because he lives quite abit away, Idk, i really do not like to be tied down so idk what to do :s

Sweetie, you just told me what you wanted like 10 times. Even though you come up with reasons not to, you end up telling me why that reason shouldn’t be tying you down.

But I think you should talk to your boyfriend. I know it’s going to be awkward telling him how you don’t think he’s the one, but again, like you said, you don’t want to regret breaking up. Mayb you two can work something out.

Also, I understand what you mean when you said you hang out with guys a lot so you feel guilty. But why? If you didn’t do anything youshouldnt do, why are you listening to what OTHER people are telling you? They aren dating your boyfriend. You are. You should know what will and will not make your boyfriend mad.

There’s nothing wrong with being single, so if you decide to end the relationship, it’s ok. Just make sure that’s what is best for you. It’s not about your friends, those people who are telling you things, or your boyfriend. How do YOU feel about the relationship? Remember, somethings can be fixed by talking it out. So make sure, if you are going to break up, you are doing so because you know there are problems that cannot be fixed. GOOD LUCK.

And sorry if we replied too late.

tinaaale:

or those assholes. You know the one i’m talking about. The one that broke your heart. But wanna know something? You have got to forget about that guy because he doesn’t care about you. If he did would you be hurting right now? If he really did like you then he would have stayed in your life…

tinaaale:

when you stay with someone because you love the feeling of “being in love“ when you’re not actually in love with the person.

I know it’s hard to walk away when you unconditionally in love with a person. But you should still reasonable. There’s no point in staying there when the person clearly does not want you. Half of the time we are lying to ourselves, giving ourselves false hope then blame the person for giving us mixed signals. You know it’s not true. You know the person doesn’t want or need you anymore. Being around them will only make the person who he or she doesn’t want you will only make them abhor you. If you really actually want to win back his or her affection, the best way to do so is make yourself aloof. After all, people always want things/people they can’t get.

anne-dos:

Have you heard the story where a boy liked a girl and he followed her everyday. One day the girl turned around and asked him why he kept following her and he told her it was because he was falling for her. Then the girl said, “Well I have this friend who is so much prettier than me, I’m sure…

So tell me, what do you want from me? No, I’m not being rhetorical. Actually tell me what you want from our relationship, so I can surpass all of your expectations. Let me show you that I can care and love and be everything you’ve always wanted. So what do you want? My heart, my soul? You’ve got it. You want to go to Disneyland? Let me cancel my plans. Need a shoulder to cry on? I’ve got two. Listen, I’m so in love with you, I’d do anything to please you. I can be dedicated, I can be faithful. I can be your soul-mate. Whatever it is, I’ll do it. 

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